I actually wrote the following post with the previous one, but then I decided to make it an entry itself. I wanna mention something and I hope this will be of some benefit. So here it goes…
I’m sure most of you have close friends and you guys know how it is. So this week, I realized something I’ve been doing to a close friend, and it got worse to the extent that I lost something so valuable, yet taken for granted. And that’s our “closeness.” Even if it was not said, that’s just something felt. So my advice to you guys is this: If you have some sort of problem, insecurity, or whatever with your friend, then I suggest you talk with them right away and make up. Call them up right now if you have to. I think this would be one the best resolutions. Because you don’t want it to build up and grow into something big, when in reality the problem is so small, perhaps even nothing.
And sometimes we can be a little stubborn to apologize or don’t want to be the first to talk, but think about it this way…the base of the friendship should be for the Sake of Allah, so when it comes to mending a dent in the friendship, do it for His Sake. I’m saying this because I learned it the hard way, and I don’t want you all to make the same mistake I did. Most friendships have their ups and downs, so don’t let one “down” overtake the greatness and blessings of all the “ups.” And trust me; there are more ups in a friendship than you can ever count.
As for me, I feel like I lost some sort of trust. I didn’t lose all of it, but I feel like I lost some of it. And there are different forms of trust. It’s hard to say this, but what hurts more than losing trust in someone, is someone losing the trust in you. And that’s one of the main things that hit me through all this. Trust. So like I said guys, mend it now and don’t let a bad apple rot down the tree. There is always hope, and that’s what I’m chasing after now.
And this is my message for the friend who I increasingly and inexcusably hurt: I am not telling you to make us close friends again with the snap of a finger. I am just asking for another chance to have the opportunity to try to earn back the trust. Pleaaaaaaase? I know you can’t just hand me the trust especially after it has been lost, and neither would I expect anyone to leave the door open for me. But this time I truly realized the dreadfulness of my mistake, and I know not to fall in the hole again. As for the “closeness”, that is up to Allah. And only Allah knows what’s in our hearts. 
I will end here with an advice someone very dear once gave me and that’s, “Don’t try to win the argument, try to win the heart.”
Please keep me in your du’as.
Was Salaamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullah,
Zoya
-Oh, by the way, my whipped cream can thingamajig is already done! Either they put too little in there, or I whipped it in my mouth too fast! But, it was good while it lasted. Mmm!
ooo nice last quote.
aww joyaa..